tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3420419511488075050.comments2023-12-30T00:39:35.575-08:00Anybody Want a Peanut?Wantapeanuthttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11993949583915924482noreply@blogger.comBlogger1009125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3420419511488075050.post-21284354028626897782016-08-31T09:41:11.326-07:002016-08-31T09:41:11.326-07:00"Spiderman like skills," love that descr..."Spiderman like skills," love that description! Can I borrow that? Our walls are bare and we had to take down our IKEA bookshelves because my 3 boya were using it as a climbing apparatus. We used to have sofas...but don't anymore since the boys ripped at them from jumping off so much. I think my oldest pretends to be Rapunzel when he puts a quilt on his head and jumps from our dining room table. I'm investigating chalkboard paint, since our walls are inked with crayola, pen and other writing utensils. Yes, when a family has a child(or in my case,children)on the spectrum, the house gets a safety face-lift. Thanks for sharing!Tiffany Dozierhttp://mom-of3withasd.netnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3420419511488075050.post-11095862966154955512016-08-14T13:06:24.844-07:002016-08-14T13:06:24.844-07:00Thank you for feeling such passion from my sons de...Thank you for feeling such passion from my sons death. Your article is well written. I miss my boy every single day. It's been 7 years now...My heart is stuck in the past. Just get your kids vaccinated...thanks. Holtins2009@yahoo.comJessica W Holthttp://www.familiesfightingflu.orgnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3420419511488075050.post-66204830239268550412016-01-17T08:48:34.706-08:002016-01-17T08:48:34.706-08:00As I read this, slowly, in between getting my Eli ...As I read this, slowly, in between getting my Eli his eggs...i know he wants eggs because he brought me the egg carton...only one broken egg. Getting Eli is tippy cup because he wanted his "ba"...i feel your pain 😊 there is no..just a second with him...unless I want a full-blown meltdown. I seem to always be jumping up to figure out what he wants or to make sure he isn't doing something he shouldn't...but tonight..he will crawl in bed with me and tell me in his one word way "snuggle" and my day seems worth the fights and meltdowns and aching joints.Grandma Nancyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01787218014513335293noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3420419511488075050.post-92088202637039979962016-01-17T08:26:32.116-08:002016-01-17T08:26:32.116-08:00Ok...exactly what i would have done...add that we ...Ok...exactly what i would have done...add that we found a field rat dead under our sink and even my husband screamed like a girl...i could have put a leash on it and passed it for a dog...horrifying 😊 Grandma Nancyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01787218014513335293noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3420419511488075050.post-52554201671697444802015-11-13T14:26:20.765-08:002015-11-13T14:26:20.765-08:00I feel this so hard!! When I posted about wanting ...I feel this so hard!! When I posted about wanting a tattoo, i got a facebook message from a rabbi I know. AH! GUILT! Also in High School I almost got one (a star somewhere with friends i no longer spend time with and I guy I went on two dates with) and when I called my father and said 'Daddy will you still love me if I get a tattoo?' he said "nope" without missing a beat. Naturally he was kidding, but it gave me enough pause to get my butt outta there without a tattoo. I, like you, would do one for family. I totally get your pause, it makes perfect sense. I think you do what's right for you. Which is so not helpful! Also there's this website that allows you to test drive tattoos: https://www.momentaryink.com/ Their work is pretty impressive. Maybe you try it out and see how you like it?Mollyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00059524266318810180noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3420419511488075050.post-24628753603982629072015-11-11T10:35:26.040-08:002015-11-11T10:35:26.040-08:00My heart breaks for the autistic people murdered b...My heart breaks for the autistic people murdered by their caregivers/parents. There are many factors that come into events such as these that there is no cut-and-dried solution, but I came to these conclusions:<br /><br />-There is a lack of support for caregivers. It is a very strenuous job, sometimes with little reward. <br />-This lack of support creates resentment against the care recipient, which the caregiver fails to address in a healthy way. <br />-The resentment and stress build over time, which leads to low self-esteem, and eventually culminates into the incident. <br /><br />I still think that there is no way of justifying murder, but the underlying causes must be addressed. <br /><br />Also:<br />-Meltdowns, psychotic episodes, and overdosing are as bad for the person experiencing it as the caregiver, if not worse. They have the same "powder keg" action as the aforementioned events.<br /><br />-The spark that sets off the powder keg is not the powder keg itself. People in caregiving positions tend to store their frustration as "powder" in a "keg" and something particularly stressful, the "spark" can set it off. Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10616282351291824392noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3420419511488075050.post-87009005301350052192015-11-11T10:16:47.683-08:002015-11-11T10:16:47.683-08:00Just a note to say I'm glad to see you writing...Just a note to say I'm glad to see you writing again! VictoriaBhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05339640543284945752noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3420419511488075050.post-20857748760305048632015-11-09T05:36:11.967-08:002015-11-09T05:36:11.967-08:00I am really enjoying your daily blog posts. It...I am really enjoying your daily blog posts. It's always a pleasure when one of my favorite bloggers increases their productivity and I gain a deeper understanding of their life. noelle02https://www.blogger.com/profile/04546019742529097992noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3420419511488075050.post-47236861537139176142015-11-04T20:43:02.628-08:002015-11-04T20:43:02.628-08:00Work is such an escape for me. Are u kidding? IT f...Work is such an escape for me. Are u kidding? IT forces me to get up and be functional. I need that distraction or I would collapse from depression. Thanks for post, Jenni.<br />LinhAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3420419511488075050.post-21648011148905206882015-11-03T01:50:22.615-08:002015-11-03T01:50:22.615-08:00Totally get where you are coming from. Thanks for ...Totally get where you are coming from. Thanks for sharing.Bright Side of Lifehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08025195022971411268noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3420419511488075050.post-10806523895825894832015-11-02T10:40:50.325-08:002015-11-02T10:40:50.325-08:00Ugh...Halloween seems like a particularly difficul...Ugh...Halloween seems like a particularly difficult holiday for your lil one. Hugs from a new reader!Veronicahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05312099092313704291noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3420419511488075050.post-62444420980165495132015-09-23T13:16:23.202-07:002015-09-23T13:16:23.202-07:00I don't really have anything elegant or though...I don't really have anything elegant or thought provoking to say, but I wanted you to know that I read this and that it resonated with me. Mollynoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3420419511488075050.post-87782948610942055152015-09-23T13:15:51.560-07:002015-09-23T13:15:51.560-07:00I feel this, down to the last line. Secular Jew he...I feel this, down to the last line. Secular Jew here. Mollynoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3420419511488075050.post-79838048686050892015-09-09T14:26:00.319-07:002015-09-09T14:26:00.319-07:00Your post made me tear up. Just the love of a mam...Your post made me tear up. Just the love of a mama. Keep loving that beautiful boy :) Getrealmommyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03845080109898768505noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3420419511488075050.post-48886673908611125292015-09-09T11:02:09.813-07:002015-09-09T11:02:09.813-07:00Does he get more aggressive before a cold or aller...Does he get more aggressive before a cold or allergies strikes? For me, allergies tend to be systemic. If I feel particularly drained, it's usually due to allergies or a cold. I do academically worse in 3rd block (out of 4 and right before lunch) because I'm usually hungry and tired at this time. Does Moe know how to listen to his body and act accordingly? That can help reduce aggression. How do you "let him lead"? Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10616282351291824392noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3420419511488075050.post-25787398622265893772015-09-09T10:29:54.809-07:002015-09-09T10:29:54.809-07:00Thanks you so much for commenting and for looking ...Thanks you so much for commenting and for looking out for kids (and all people) like Moe. We try to give him what he needs but it is hard to always know what that is. We try to let him lead the way as much as we can while keeping him and his sister safe.Wantapeanuthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11993949583915924482noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3420419511488075050.post-935811521383300302015-09-09T09:50:28.256-07:002015-09-09T09:50:28.256-07:00I think Moe is having a tough weekend. Does Moe ha...I think Moe is having a tough weekend. Does Moe have sufficient downtime so that he can do whatever he likes, even if it looks like "nothing" or a non-violent outlet for his anger like punching a punching bag/pillow or ripping paper? Do you give him options when it comes to leisure, clothing, or food? Are there any alternatives such as using a brush on the skin, chewing gum, or squeezing a stress ball that would potentially work for Moe? Consider his overall temperament. Is he more choleric, melancholic, sanguine, phlegmatic, or supine/leukine? Act according to this temperament. I am an autistic person concerned for the wellbeing of my people. It is important to me that my people thrive and, as far as I am concerned, Moe is my people. You can scream at my digital face, call me "too high-functioning" or "too intelligent", and say that I'm not like Moe, but that has ceased to bother me long ago. People like Moe are my raison d'être for advocacy.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10616282351291824392noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3420419511488075050.post-7755090607927709792015-09-09T06:47:03.419-07:002015-09-09T06:47:03.419-07:00Thank you so so so much for sharing your truth. Th...Thank you so so so much for sharing your truth. Thank you for sharing that Autism is more than the high functioning aspergers that "must see TV" and "very special" episodes portray.<br /><br />Sending hugs to you, Jeff, Moe, and Jelly. I love you, my friend.Dani Gillmanhttp://blog.birdhousehq.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3420419511488075050.post-87490750124936224142015-09-08T18:52:47.355-07:002015-09-08T18:52:47.355-07:00Ana -- I am sure you meant no harm but your commen...Ana -- I am sure you meant no harm but your comment is careless and much easier said than done.. For many of us myself included of course we know we shouldn't compare and we do enjoy but these " trigger events" like back to school, birthdays etc. bring up many emotions of which we all can share and express. As always hats off to Jen for saying exactly how many of us feel..Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3420419511488075050.post-73204983299230205802015-08-25T15:30:48.639-07:002015-08-25T15:30:48.639-07:00You can be happy doing things the Moe way. Just se...You can be happy doing things the Moe way. Just set your comparisons aside and enjoy Moe. Annanoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3420419511488075050.post-92009989887410541152015-08-21T16:03:52.485-07:002015-08-21T16:03:52.485-07:00You can be happy doing things the Moe way. I almos...You can be happy doing things the Moe way. I almost fell into this trap in seventh grade starting the flute because my peers already had several years of experience, but I stopped because a lack of experience can't exactly be helped.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10616282351291824392noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3420419511488075050.post-817660628005447682015-08-20T13:10:27.963-07:002015-08-20T13:10:27.963-07:00Wow..thank you for hitting the nail on the head. F...Wow..thank you for hitting the nail on the head. First week of school for us and I have many similar emotions.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3420419511488075050.post-13636157571902891622015-08-20T05:42:34.508-07:002015-08-20T05:42:34.508-07:00Thank you for writing this. Thank you for writing this. Jenniferhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06659712135190740230noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3420419511488075050.post-75447665357042659732015-07-09T14:12:23.176-07:002015-07-09T14:12:23.176-07:00I've debated how to say this and hpe my intent...I've debated how to say this and hpe my intent comes through. When you say "who will make his favorite foods when I am gone" .... this is a very poetic expression of what lies at the heart of maternal fear, imo. My kids have fewer challenges but still, when the night is dark what keeps me up is the thought that one day I am gone, and who will make them their favorite food? Who will love them as I love them?? Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3420419511488075050.post-74487417966787444212015-07-01T15:20:31.198-07:002015-07-01T15:20:31.198-07:00great update, thanks.
"I woke up in tears ...great update, thanks. <br /><br />"I woke up in tears one day wondering who will make Moe his favorite foods when I'm gone. It's a silly thing. Except it's not."<br /><br />This is an abyss for me, the thought that I will die one day and my kids will turn to me for help or love or understanding and there will be no one there. It's tough.<br />Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com