tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3420419511488075050.post669014708744857321..comments2023-12-30T00:39:35.575-08:00Comments on Anybody Want a Peanut?: Beating the oddsWantapeanuthttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11993949583915924482noreply@blogger.comBlogger15125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3420419511488075050.post-34293658880496197472010-08-17T20:11:17.998-07:002010-08-17T20:11:17.998-07:00I'm in school studying to be a special educati...I'm in school studying to be a special education teacher. I just love those special little children. My brother-in-law is mentally handicapped & he amazes me how smart he is (he's 50).<br /><br />Stopping by from #31DBBBLaurahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06864977144460701741noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3420419511488075050.post-84045873733732836162010-08-17T18:54:46.207-07:002010-08-17T18:54:46.207-07:00Jennie, an extremely beautifully written and intel...Jennie, an extremely beautifully written and intelligent blog that deals with the challenges of having an autistic or special needs child -- and how it affects the entire family, including one's marriage. Written with sensitivity, compassion, and a full understanding of your subject -- since you, yourself, are the mother of a three year old son who has autism. I applaud you for writing so honestly and revealing your emotions so openly. I can very well see your blog being published into a book to give comfort and support to others who are also walking in your shoes. Bravo!Joanhttp://www.abadmarriageisfattening.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3420419511488075050.post-2908594280225603362010-08-11T22:55:55.734-07:002010-08-11T22:55:55.734-07:00I agree with one of the previous comments, I think...I agree with one of the previous comments, I think the only thing that makes me give up sometimes is "what would I do alone with my daughter? how will I look after her?" with two jobs managing her schedule is already very difficult. Carving out time, having personal time. Sometimes I feel all this is easier said than done. I dont have answers to your but I agree with you, having a special needs child makes the life so much more difficult. Sometimes I want a break from my family. I really do need a week long break from my daughter and husband (i feel very gulty in accepting it, but its true)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3420419511488075050.post-26663286622391817372010-08-11T12:08:19.940-07:002010-08-11T12:08:19.940-07:00Having a child with a disability adds stress to a ...Having a child with a disability adds stress to a marriage far beyond the usual daily annoyances in life. Congratulations on five years together! You are my hero.melissahttp://www.lifewithsophia.blogspot.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3420419511488075050.post-25787387922892510102010-08-11T09:22:04.953-07:002010-08-11T09:22:04.953-07:00Thank you all for relating so much of your own exp...Thank you all for relating so much of your own experiences to Annabelle's in the book. I feel humbled by your observations about what marriage is like having a special needs child. And yes, marriage IS difficult, but it must be so much more when you have this daily struggle to get through and so much is uncertain. The blame and the guilt have to be nearly overwhelming at times. <br />Sky Princess, I think that Jeremiah was appealing to Annabelle because of his settledness. He was a grownup and he was interested in her at a time when her husband wasn't--and lacking self-confidence in her abilities and in her own attractiveness, she was ready to fall for anybody who paid attention to her. <br />Nicole, I think you hit the nail on the head: she wanted excitement and he represented drama.<br />Lisa, it's so true what you say. There are good years and bad years, and those years with toddlers can be the hardest. <br />Pamela, great insight! I think she gave up, too. Also, she didn't know how to be married. She had a very limited understanding of her own parents' marriage, and she didn't know Grant at all. She jumped into it and then had no idea what she was getting into. <br />Lynn, I wish you all the best. My heart goes out to you.Maddie Dawsonhttp://www.maddiedawson.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3420419511488075050.post-79641723726681082182010-08-11T08:44:30.408-07:002010-08-11T08:44:30.408-07:00My marriage is in shambles. I can relate to alot ...My marriage is in shambles. I can relate to alot of what you've listed. We talk about next to nothing else but autism. We disagree on the extent to which we should pursue biomedical intervention, which my husband is completely convinced of and didactic about. Finances are strapped due to the expensive therapies. I'm not sure how this statistic could be so high just because it seems so financially impossible...it would be hard to set up separate households without having to cut back on therapies which would be unfair to my daughter. I'm a real ray of sunshine aren't I?Lynnhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10901229142046583059noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3420419511488075050.post-48397415387997630702010-08-11T06:07:24.362-07:002010-08-11T06:07:24.362-07:00Staggering statistic. WHY is marriage so hard? It&...Staggering statistic. WHY is marriage so hard? It's work, that's for sure. This post is SO helpful, thanks for writing it.Linsey Khttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11975844143512412392noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3420419511488075050.post-43448073397307287792010-08-11T03:36:08.811-07:002010-08-11T03:36:08.811-07:00Love this post! I can't wait to hear your thou...Love this post! I can't wait to hear your thoughts on "Cowboy and WIlls' for next month!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3420419511488075050.post-8878371700209322612010-08-10T23:44:15.724-07:002010-08-10T23:44:15.724-07:00When things are really tough, it's an easy esc...When things are really tough, it's an easy escape to fantasized about what could have been... I didn't really care for Annabelle either or her views. <br /><br />I wish I had words of wisdom, but we're in the thick of it too. I just know it's hard to see yourself out of a situation when you're in it. <br /><br />The best we've done is be really open and honest about our life. I rant and vent, but I try to be clear that it's not a personal attack, just me working through a situation within the security, love, and privacy of my marriage. We should all deserve that much :-)Formerly Graciehttp://formerlygracie.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3420419511488075050.post-77156811035142585622010-08-10T17:00:05.879-07:002010-08-10T17:00:05.879-07:00For my mariage, it's hard to say what the effe...For my mariage, it's hard to say what the effect of having a kid on the spectrum is - he's our only child, so we don't know parenting any other way. Honestly - any tips I'd offer would be those for parents of special or typical kids - carve out personal time, couple time, family time. That proportion will change weekly. Pick your battles, talk calmly and stive to solve problems. Never forget to laugh. We're going on 14 years married next week with 6 years living together prior. Keep chugging along, it does get easier as kids grow older (regardless of their developement I believe)A Momhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10008362901470679021noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3420419511488075050.post-75233041958981787372010-08-10T13:07:41.416-07:002010-08-10T13:07:41.416-07:00There are so many things that put stress on a marr...There are so many things that put stress on a marriage. The challenge of having a child who requires extra attention must make it even more difficult to connect at the end of a busy day.Unplanned Cookinghttp://www.unplannedcooking.com/?p=7870noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3420419511488075050.post-81762505614572282602010-08-10T12:19:49.300-07:002010-08-10T12:19:49.300-07:00Exactly... Marriage is a job in itself and we all ...Exactly... Marriage is a job in itself and we all have our very own twists to add. I think Annabelle gave up.Pamela Goldhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03828671725848167955noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3420419511488075050.post-51624577027671065942010-08-10T11:16:07.199-07:002010-08-10T11:16:07.199-07:00Good perspective. You're right, all relationsh...Good perspective. You're right, all relationships are fragile. <br /><br />My husband and I are nearing our five year anniversary, as well. This past year has been the hardest, maybe it's time or the fact that we're two working parents with a toddler. <br /><br />But, overall, I'm also proud of the family that we've become... and continue to become.Lisa Hannemanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04861341862784698692noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3420419511488075050.post-23109616433109223042010-08-10T09:45:28.904-07:002010-08-10T09:45:28.904-07:00I got married at 22, and feel like I didn't le...I got married at 22, and feel like I didn't learn until a 2nd marriage and after I had kids at 35, how really really tough marriage can be. I can see why she fell for him, and having been very young and married and having trouble, sure can see why running away seemed exciting.<br />Great post.Nicole Peltonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07791466101496995936noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3420419511488075050.post-81571323726511120622010-08-10T09:12:04.904-07:002010-08-10T09:12:04.904-07:00Jeremiah was a jerk in the book. It was hard to se...Jeremiah was a jerk in the book. It was hard to see why Annabelle found him so magnetic.<br /><br />Nice post!SKY PRINCESShttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08754246852792388695noreply@blogger.com